Learning that someone you love has been diagnosed with breast cancer can trigger many emotions. Some people struggle with finding the right words to use when offering encouragement or support. So, we are sharing a few tips that might help.

Don’t ask too many questions.

Although finding out a friend has breast cancer can be shocking, try not to ask too many questions. Your friend needs time to process the impact of their condition. They might also have many questions they plan on asking their healthcare provider. Instead, listen and accept what they are willing to share.

Offer to help.

A friend diagnosed with breast cancer will need your help and support. Offer to help with grocery shopping, washing their hair, housework, dropping off their kids, or picking them up. It’s good to be specific about the day and time so they know you are serious.

Show up for them.

It can be overwhelming for your friend to process what’s happening and make the necessary decisions to help them heal. Offer to go with them to doctor’s appointments and take notes so you can help your friend understand better what might be required. Being with them can provide comfort and ease, especially during doctor’s visits or radiation treatment.

Do not make ageist, sexist, or insensitive comments.

Children and men also get breast cancer; the disease does not discriminate. It is also unhelpful to mention preventative measures that might have helped. If your friend is young, encourage them to find a support group of people with a similar diagnosis who can relate to what they are going through. 

Research so you have an idea of what they might need to do.

Some people may require a mastectomy (removing one or both breasts). Reconstructive surgery can change the look and shape of their chest. So try not to refer to this procedure as a breast enhancement. This surgery might span several operations and is an ordeal some women might avoid. Be supportive and try to accept whatever decision your loved one makes.

Please don’t take things personally.

Your friend, partner, or child is dealing with an intense illness that can be debilitating and energy-consuming. There are days when their condition will take a psychological toll. So, don’t pressure them if they can’t show up, participate, or break plans. Let them get the rest they need.

Allow them to enjoy the breaks they need.

Please keep your conversations light during friendly outings like lunch, dinner, or shopping. They don’t need to be constantly reminded of their condition or may not want to talk about it all the time. Instead, focus on what they enjoy, like their children, favourite hobbies, shows, or fun activities.

Other tips may help.

Your loved one may show signs of post-traumatic stress disorder, like crying, insomnia, or constantly checking for lumps. Please encourage them to speak with their healthcare provider for additional support, like therapy, medications, and other treatments that can help. 

Please use Find Yello to search for doctors, pharmacies, cancer organisations, and related services. Let’s continue to spread awareness and support those we love.

Sources: Healthline, WebMD, National Breast Cancer, Cancer, and Do Something.